Family violence: who does treatment?

Family violence: who does treatment?

Domestic violence

Is there effective treatment for a violent person?

In a report to Ms. Eva Giberti, brand new coordinator of the "Victims Against Violence" Program, created by the Ministry of Interior, journalist Eduardo Videla (Page 12, 30-3-06) asks:

There are treatments. One of the first to work on the subject is Jorge Corsi, head of the Chair of Family Violence at the Faculty of Psychology of the UBA. The problem is when the person is not aware that their violence is dangerous. So treatment is impossible because it cannot be done compulsively.

We must bear in mind that the problem of violence is linked to patriarchy, through the history of humanity. It is a behavior backed by customs: historically men have been taught that they have the right to strike. "

In my experience as a lawyer, many beating men, in order to avoid the exclusion of the conjugal home, commit themselves in a hearing to attend a psychotherapeutic treatment and their women "believe them" and stop the entire judicial procedure, reversing the decision of break away.

Intrafamily therapy and violence

In most cases, they then do not go to therapy. When the judge who tells them that they should do a treatment, it does not work if they do not start to recognize that they are violent. They generally deny it, even if there is evidence, or justify it, without considering that they have anything to change.

I have participated in hearings where a man "trying to deny that he was violent" got so violent in Courts, punching his fist against the audiencist's desk, that he had to be removed by the public force.

In a family with violent behavior, some of the children are usually the first to go to therapy, as spokesperson for family conflict. There, mothers always collaborate and some parents do not: they do not even attend at the request of their child's therapist.

The beaten women, at some point, usually go to mutual help groups or individual therapy, sometimes hiding it from the husband to prevent him from pressing her to leave.

But it is these women, who first could understand how the circle of violence works, recognize that they are immersed in a dysfunctional bond and strengthen their self-esteem, almost the only ones that can sustain in time the decision to separate and initiate legal actions. The others usually give up the first pressure they receive from their husband.

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Dr. Mirta S. Núñez, family lawyer and social psychologist.