Misogyny is a concept that refers to hatred, aversion and prejudice rooted towards women and girls. This attitude that at first glance seems so extreme is a deeply rooted reality in today's societies and manifests itself day after day in different ways such as discrimination, denigration, objectification or the use of physical or verbal violence against women or girls.
- 1 Where do misogynistic attitudes come from?
- 2 How to identify a misogynist person?
- 3 The impact of misogyny on mental health
Where do misogynistic attitudes come from?
There are many irrational beliefs and ideas that hide behind misogynist attitudes and that are transmitted in the family and community context, generation after generation, achieving a climate of discrimination and inequality between people.
The distorted idea from which misogyny starts is the of considering women as inferior to men. One of the main beliefs that derive from this idea is to affirm that women have a specific “place” or “role” in society, for example, working in a house for their family.
Another very common misogynist idea is to consider women an object at the service of man, for example, for their reproductive physical attributes. This causes a misogynist to reduce women to a simplified concept and demonstrate different attitudes about it, such as rejecting a woman's friendship or professional value, as well as valuing women exclusively for their appearance, sometimes publicly and humiliating, among many other acts.
Misogyny nurtures many distorted ideas about people by simply being born with one sex or another and is shown in very different situations: from those as common and unviolent as motivating a boy more than a girl to study certain careers to others very violent such as physical or psychological abuse of a woman. Normally misogynistic people deny that they are and define themselves as sensible and judicious people, but it is in their daily acts when they show ideas of aversion towards women.
How to identify a misogynist person?
The actions whose background is marked by misogynistic beliefs are many and persist today in many fields of our lives. Some of the clearest attitudes that misogynist people usually show on a day-to-day basis and that can be used to identify them are:
- Classify women according to two basic categories, as white or black and reducing them. They are the people who see a woman as "holy" / "provocative" or "cold" / "emotional" and tend to treat them from a supposed position of superiority depending on the label they are granted, provided that the woman does not adjust to expectations based on the categories that misogynist people consider correct for a woman.
- Controllers: Misogynist men often need to be in absolute control in relationships with women. Whether economically, emotionally or even in matters of social relations, misogynist men always tend to make all decisions above the opinions of women, sometimes indirectly, ridiculing the decisions of their partners.
- Blame: Misogynist people often blame women for everything bad that happens to themselves, not only in their relationships, but in their lives. Couples of these types of people are often continually apologizing. In addition, they often blame women for all that negative circumstance that, for sexist reasons, occur to themselves, since, according to these people, they are the ones who have been able to “provoke or manipulate” the default situations, having given rise to that painful situation that she herself suffers.
- Ridicule: Misogynist people often try to ridicule and humiliate women regularly, whether in social, family or work contexts. When a woman has certain opinions or makes her own decisions, she can find this rejection and denigration if she is close to a misogynist, who will not tolerate that she can become the leader of any project.
The impact of misogyny on mental health
Misogynist ideas have a strong impact on mental health of people. Misogynist people live in a distorted reality and more prone to violence and their intimate relationships can be problematic, just as their emotional stability can be affected.
One of the most dangerous effects that misogyny has on women's mental health is that of its internalization, the so-called internalized misogyny. This is an effect that appears especially in women who have been educated or who have surrounded themselves in an environment in which they have learned that misogynist ideas are true and this causes them psychological problems such as self-rejection, problems with their own image, eating disorders or self-healing itself in cases of abuse or abuse. Internalized misogyny can also get women to see the world from this distorted prism and consider other women from this perspective of hate.
Whatever the reason for misogyny, its consequences on mental health are devastating. If you believe that the misogynistic attitudes of certain people are affecting your day to day, or on the contrary, you have entrenched beliefs that are the result of a misogynist education and that may be harming both yourself and other people, no Feel free to seek professional help to be able to find stability and live a full life, full of respect and peace both with yourself and with those around you.